Tips For Successful Dating - Part 3

Be Yourself

Our ideas about love and romance are based on what we see other people do. Movies, televisons, shows, music and books can all influence people 's notions of love. People try to change themselves to match images that the media creates. These images often are not realistic.

You may think you can make your boyfriend or girlfriend happy if you change. You may think that losing weight or acting tough, innocent or wordly will improve your relationship. It is a mistake to try to change who you are to please someone else. You will end up feeling uncomfortable. After all, the person was attracted to you for who you are. If you become someone you 're not, you may lose the relationship. If you cannot be youself with someone, then you probably should not be with that person!

Tips For Successful Dating - Part 2

Take Your Time

You may want to become closer to the person you are dating. You may want to spend all your time with that special person. You may want to have sex with that person. However, two people rarely share the same feelings about how fast a relationship should grow. It is important for a couple to talk and decide together how the relationship should develop.

Often couples break up because one person pushes to other to do something. One person may want a lot of physical intimacy or closeness. Another person may want a lot of emotional intimacy. The difference between what two people want can create tension in a relationship. That can lead to resentment, anger and breakups. It helps to talk honestly about what you want and listen to what your partner wants.

Did You Know?

Some of the keys to successful relationships are being loyal, trustworthy, honest and respectful. Every healthy relationship involves some compromise. Both partners have to be willing to give and take.

Tips For Successful Dating - Part 1

Talk Less About Your Date

Many people want to let the world know how happy they are when they are in love. That's normal. It is not a good idea, however, to tell friends every detail about a date. Dating is a special relationship between two people. Part of what makes romance special is that it is only between the two people.

People who tell about their dates sometimes get burned. Friends may distort, or alter things you tell them. You may end up getting a reputation you do not want or deserve. You date may think you cannot keep a secret.

Tips For Starting To Date - Part 3

Talk With The Person You Like

The best way to get to know someone is to talk with that person. Talking will help you discover what the two of you have in common. Does the person you admire seem only to care about football? If you do not care about sports, you may decide that person is not for you.

What kind of music does he or she like? You may find that you both like the same bands. Going to a concert together could be a natural idea for a first date.

Sometimes it takes courage to talk with a person you like. If you like someone, you might try these strategies;

• Strike up a conversations with the person.
  

• Practise things to say before approaching the person.
  

• Try out lines at home. Rehearse alone in front of the mirror or with a friend. The more you practice, the more comfortable you will become talking with potential dates.
  

• Make eye contact. It helps to look a person in the eye during conversation.
  

Some people think the hardest part of a conversations is getting started. You might start by asking people how they are doing.

Fast Fact

Talking does not have to face to face. You may feel more comfortable talking on the phone with a new friend. You may even communicate via email. Find out if the person you like has an email address. Then send him or her a short note.

Tips For Starting To Date - Part 2

Looked At The Person You Are Attracted To

You may know someone you think you would like to date. How do you know if the two of you should date?

To answer that question, spend some time finding out about the person. Is he or she nice to friends? How does he or she treat other people? You may no longer be interested once you find out how that person treats others.

Think about why you are attracted to a certain person. Are you interested mainly because of how he or she looks? Relationships that are based on appearance are usually shallow. Healthy relationships need to be based on more than looks!

It helps to listen to what other friends think of the person you are interested in. However, it's important not to be completely swayed by hearsay. Try to get a feeling for yourself about what someone is like. Then think about why you are attracted to that person.

Tips For Starting To Date - Part 1

There is no formula for dating success. However, there are many ways to improve your chances for success and fun. You can learn about relationships by watching other people.

Maybe you have a friend who seems popular. What does he or she do to make friends? Chances are that your friend talks with new people.

To make a positive impression, check yourself out in the mirror. Is your hair clean? Have you bathed? Those basic grooming habits do make a difference. When you are well groomed, you feel good about yourself and that shows.

You do not have to say or wear out-rageous things. The most important things is to feel comfortable with yourself.

Look At Yourself!

Dating Does Not Equal Happines

Our society sends countless message that romance solves everything. Think about Cinderella. Life, however is not a fairy tale or a movie. Even people who truly love one another do not marry and just live happily ever after.

Dating, love and marriage do not guarantee happiness. Respecting and caring about yourself can improve your chances for happiness. Poeple who love themselves are more likely to find others who also will love them. It helps to learn to listen to yourself. Once you know yourself, it's easier to figure out what kind of persons you want to date.

At a Glance

Not all societies allow or encourge dating. The numbers of young Americans who date often surprises teens who move up the United States from other countries.

For examples, high schools students from Taiwan, Malaysia and Columbia showed such surprise. They all said dating was less common in their country than in the United States.

When Parents Disapprove

Some parents think their teens are too young to date. No everyone agrees at which age dating is okay. Parents may have trouble accepting that their teens are ready to date. Those parents may try to control a teens normal urge to be independent.

It can be hard to have parents do not want you to date. Some teens disobey their parents. They date secretly. That can cause tension and lessen the joy of dating. Other teens try to prove to their parents that they are mature enough to date. They might show this by following the curfew their parents set. Such an action can help parents see that their teens are responsible.

Some parents disapprove of the specific person their son or daugther wants to date. Parents may think someone is too old, too sexy, too rich or too poor. Some parents do not want their teens to date anyone from a different religion or race.

Mix-race dating may be an issue for some parents. No laws probihit interracial relationships. However, many mixed-race couples experience prejudice.

Teens may find parents have some good reasons for their concern. Sometimes love makes it hard for a person to see the faults in someone he or she is dating.

Everyone Else Is Dating

Teens often pay attention to what their peers do. When one group of teens tries something new, other teens may become more curious. Dating is something many but not all young people want to try.

Popular media such as movies, televisions and music also push the idea that everyone is dating. However, the fact is that many teens do not date!

Hormones affect some of the attraction we feel toward people. These natural chemicals control body functions and help young bodies grow. During puberty, a teen 's body starts to change.

Sex organs mature. For example, a girl 's breast develope and grow. At the same time, girls experience on increase in levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone. The hormone testosterone increase in boys.

Hormones cause people to think more about sex. They stimulate a person's sexual disire. This is natural. They may cause teen to want a close, special relationship.

Why People Date?

Dating teaches you about other people and yourself. Spending time with one person is a good way to get to know that person. It also helps you learn about other types of people.

You learn about yourself by seeing your reactions to dating differ from those of your friends.

Finding a girlfriend or boyfriend can make a person feel more special. It is exciting and fun to like and be liked.

Romance can make a person fell happy, content, beutiful, funny or smart.

Dating???

Dating means that two people who are attracted to each other and find each other special spend time together.

It is natural for teen (expecially) to be curious about dating and sexuality. Hormones, or natural chemicals in the body make teens more sexually aware than adults.

Warning!

Dating does not guarantee happiness!!!

by Kate Havelin